Source: One of The Hardest Things…
Ok, so I demanded my husband fully disclose everything about his sexual addiction.
This was THE most hurtful part of all I had been through regarding his addiction.
According to him, the actual encounters stopped just prior to our wedding. I did not believe this especially since he admit that the phone calls and masturbation during these chat line calls.
Anyway, I’m not sure if he was just angry about my pressuring him and was trying to be hurtful or if he just decided to tell me all the graphic details. I guess it was a little of both.
Most of this information I knew already, what I didn’t know was of course, was the very hurtful details. When I say graphic, I am talking about EVERY detail.
I was not ready for this and it was devastating beyond what I can put into words.
I read later that this should be done as a couple with a counselor at a certain timeframe during his recovery.
As mentioned before; I am starting this blog for all women suffering or have already endured living with a sex addict. All of us have been hurt and likely have resentment, mistrust, anger, doubt, and fear. I have been through so much and like you, have learned a lot. The first and most valuable lesson I can remember learning was “trust your instincts.” I would appreciate your input…what was the first or most important thing you learned as a result of living with a sex addict?